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A sister takes a moment

September 14th, 2014 4 comments

Lalu Wedding

It must have been around ten forty-five in the morning or so on a mild, sunny Saturday as I recall. December 22th, 1955.  My oldest sister was getting married in a little over an hour, judging from the clock in the left picture above. I was seven years old.

Always last to be ready, my mother was still in her bedroom putting herself together, as she often said. My dad and I were in the high-ceiling, more glass than brick living room of our mid-century house in west Houston. Dad was almost certainly reading the paper in the wing-back chair. I was on the couch sulking.

I had two sisters in their twenties and a sixteen-year-old brother. I don’t know where my sister Robin was at that moment. Probably doing her makeup. (She was our blonde bombshell.) My brother Grainger was  probably feeding the snakes caged in his room. (A future biologist, he was allowed to keep non-poisonous snakes in the house, but that’s another story.)

My unhappiness on the couch was born of my disappointment at losing my sister Lalu, who took that name from me when I was two and couldn’t pronounce “Nancy Lou.” We were very close. Being sixteen when I was born, she evidently put me in her bed when I cried in infancy. She took me to movies, got me my first haircut, taught me to play chess and cards, etc. When I was six, she returned from Stanford, as promised, to teach science at a high school. I had started school late due to my mother’s misperceptions (a good story, that one). It was then that she discovered I could neither tell time nor read.  Lalu taught me these things in short order, which saved me further embarrassment at school.

Now, two years later, she was leaving again, and for good this time.  When, sitting on that very couch, I heard of her engagement, I tried to poison my future brother-in-law.

Sort of.

On hearing the news, my dad opened a bottle of champagne, an ounce of which was allotted to me as was the custom on such special occasions.  Something had to be done, I thought. Not waiting for my pour, I walked into the kitchen and retrieved a glass from on high. Into it I poured tomato juice, Worcestershire, my father’s beloved Mexican hot sauce, and carried the concoction to the couch where I handed it to the fiance saying, “Drink this. It’s poison.”


After I disclosed the recipe, the others laughed – the fiance rather nervously. I did not.

What followed were months of preparation for what was to be a very large wedding. Everyone pitched in. A lot of money was spent. (My father offered the couple the same amount if they’d elope, which my sister declined, and my mother poo-pooed.) Hundreds of invitations were assembled in our living room. Licking stamps was my contribution, which I considered mildly heroic. (No one mentioned the use of a damp sponge until I began to gag.) And during the months that followed no one bothered to ask me how I felt about my hitherto doting sister’s impending disappearance from the house.

And so it was that I was brooding on our living room couch the morning of December 27, 1956.

Lalu walked into the room, looking beautiful in her white dress flowing all around her. My dad put down his paper and said as much, then talked breezily in his usual fashion about how boys are no damned good and offered to put the groom in jail if Lalu had changed her mind. (Dad was a humorist and a civil judge who very rarely put people in jail and then only for contempt.) My sister laughed heartily, as she still does. She kissed Dad, and declined both offers.

At this point Lulu looked down on her little brother and found him sulking once again. It was then that Mother entered the room. Seeing her daughter doing nothing but standing there staring at her brother, Mother suggested there must be something Lalu should be doing.

Indeed there was, Lalu said. She promptly opened the game cabinet and retrieved the carved wooden chess set and placed it on the coffee table before me. “I need to play chess with Sperry.”

And so she did. The game didn’t last too long, I’ sure. Lalu was very good at chess. But she was in no hurry. We spoke of things I can’t possibly recall. Only that we spoke only to each other for the little while she had separated out for me, her anxious little brother, a moment that stands out to me now as clearly as it did these many years ago.

A note about the images. The photos at the top of this post are of Lalu and Dad (left) and Mom and her brother, the beloved Uncle Philo. Below is a picture of Lalu and me a few years ago with Mt. Shasta in the background and, of course, the bride and groom with Lalu and Robin’s dear friend Jean Garwood.

Lalu and Sperry 2006Lalu and Roy

The passing of Juanita Needy Wren

September 8th, 2014 Comments off


Beloved wife and Mother

May 15, 1937 – September 5, 2014

Mrs. Juanita L. (Needy) Wren, 77, of Melbourne, FL and formerly of Waynesboro, PA, died Friday evening, September 5, 2014 in her home.

Born May 15, 1937 in Waynesboro, she was the daughter of the late Crawford E. and Leota B. (Strawderman) Needy.

Mrs. Wren received her G.E.D. and later attended Shippensburg State Teachers College, Shippensburg, PA.

She and her husband, Campbell C. Wren, were married in August 1978. They have lived in Florida for over 15 years.

Mrs. Wren managed The Village Book Store, Waynesboro and later was a clerk at Bon Ton, Chambersburg, PA.

She enjoyed reading, wine, and spending time with her grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

In addition to her husband, she is survived by four children, Jennifer C. Adelsberger and her husband, Joe of Frederick, MD, Timothy R. Berklite and his wife, Jean of Waynesboro, Tammy L. Carstensen and her husband, Mike of Huntsville, AL, and Mary G. Lowe of Cummings, GA; eight grandchildren, Andrew, Mark, Erica, Dustin, Daniel, Matthew, Makenzie, and Karissa; two great-grandchildren, Nicholas and Sophia; one sister, Sue Nitterhouse of Fayetteville; two brothers, Terry Needy of Waynesboro and Michael Needy of Lititz, PA; and a number of nieces and nephews.

In addition to her parents, she was preceded in death by one brother, Robert Needy.

A note about Robin from Jennie Kiesling

September 3rd, 2014 Comments off

Yes, I feel cheated of the chance to make cakes!   That traditional started the year after Uncle Malcolm died.  I wanted to bring some light into Robin’s life, but over the years those parties at her house probably did even more for me.  When they ended, it seemed to me that Robin had become happy enough in her own life that she no longer needed the annual visitation.  Although I missed the parties, it was great to know that Robin was thriving–as she did right up to the end.  Indeed, Happy Birthday, Aunt Robin!

Bill Guest on Robin’s Birthday

September 2nd, 2014 Comments off
Last night at Wil’s house the McCorquodales gathered to treat me to a delicious dinner and visiting, for my birthday but also to honor and remember Robin. It was in the cards to have a good birthday party for Robin, and I hope she is taking note right now. We had some fine ones together, back to back as they are. I explained to her that we know I was older because mine’s on the 1st, her’s on the 2nd.
Happy birthday, my dear Robin.
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From Robin’s cousin, Mary Mize Hellums

September 2nd, 2014 Comments off

I say a Hardy Amen to Andrew’s comment about Robin. Every time with her was a blessing.

Happy Birthday from Andy Wilhoit

September 2nd, 2014 Comments off

Thinking about it, every time I was around Robin, it was a celebration.  So why stop now.  Happy Birthday Robin, you were the best.  And Happy Birthday Bill, I’m glad I know you.

From Lalu Kiesling on Robin’s Birthday

September 2nd, 2014 Comments off
Jennie and I used to come to Houston to celebrate Robin’s and Jennie’s birthdays

Labor Day week end. There were several cakes by Jennie, Robin and I cooked and made salads? There was serious barbecuing in the garden. Lots of friends and family.


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Robin and Heather’s Portrait

September 2nd, 2014 Comments off

From Heather on what would have been Robin’s Eightieth Birthday, which we know she is now celebrating.

Early this morning as I am awaking slowing, going into a small hall, I noticed a pastel hanging on the wall of myself that Eugenia had done of me when I was 14 yrs old. She did not sign it and I had always wanted Robin to sign it for her mother. But, ALL the times that Robin was here with me, never once did I remember to ask her! She knew  the painting and we marveled how your Mom had captured the exact color of my hair and then surrounded the pastel in a lime green( my best color but of course it took me 30 years to see how good I looked in that color!)Now I am heartsick that I have lost my golden opportunity. I awaken thinking of precious Robin and remembering her laugh. Now, one of you MUST make it to SA and sign my portrait! Please! Heather

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